Posts Tagged child custody

The End of the World

The End of the World Leo Terbieten MFT   The feelings of loss that occur during divorce can be a virtual, psychological hall of mirrors. With childhood experiences of loss and abandonment reflected upon your current situation. Added to this complex overlap of emotion is your children’s actual experience of loss and your projection onto […]

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Bird Nesting as a Child Custody Solution

Is it Healthy to Maintain a Relationship Beyond its Expiration Date? An increasingly popular approach to co-parenting is “bird nesting.” This involves the parents remaining in the family home but basically living separate lives with specific periods of responsibility for the kids. In most “bird nesting” arrangements the parents continue to cohabit but sleep in […]

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Solitude

The apparent ability of some parents to get on with their social lives post-divorce without missing a beat can be demoralizing to those who find business as usual impossible. This perspective can be especially painful during holidays and anniversaries. When the lonely, isolated parent views themselves negatively in contrast to the active parent an unhealthy […]

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The Needy Parent and the Children that ally with them

November 2014 Blog The Needy Parent and the Children that ally with them Leo Terbieten MFT Separation and divorce, especially with children, is one of the most painful experiences you can go through, no question. In this article, however, I will describe the dynamic of wounded narcissism as opposed to the experience of genuine loss. […]

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Fighting for the Soul of your Child

      Leo Terbieten MFT Fighting for the Soul of your Child To the fortunate uninitiated, the conflict that occurs between parents during divorce can seem inexcusable. After all can’t these parents behave like adults and do what’s best for their children? Well here’s the problem; often the parents are not only doing what […]

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New Book Release! Change Your Mind

Change Your Mind is now available. A blueprint for dealing with the often untenable yet unavoidable necessity of maintaining a relationship with your co-parent, Change Your Mind advances an approach that fosters safety, insight and effective communication. It’s an approach that’s designed to help protect you and your children from unhealthy co-parenting dynamics. It’s a […]

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The Over-Functioning Parent

August Blog Over-Functioning. A childhood survival adaptation gets replayed as an adult. I often see clients, experiencing divorce or separation, who are simply not comfortable with asserting their concerns or desires in the custody process. Their reluctance has antecedents in childhood. If, as a child, you adapt to your environment by having to take care […]

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